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Bassetman - February 24, 2009 10:28 PM (GMT)
A very good friend of mine has been diagnosed with Anorexia. She visited New York to audition for an agent, but the F*cker told her to "Lose the lumps."

She's lost what confidence she had, and has resorted to stop eating.

ACTUAL advice, anyone?

M Bison - February 24, 2009 10:32 PM (GMT)
First of all, telling her that she looks fine and is not fat won't help, as true as it may be.

Not much you can do other than be supportive and hope she gets the professional help she needs.

Solomon - February 24, 2009 10:36 PM (GMT)
The only thing that you can do right now is keep being her friend, and supporting her. Let her know that she has worth.

As for the eating thing my guess is that it's a phase, that comes with rejection. Sometimes when people are depressed they eat a lot (like me), and some people don't eat at all. It could be that she's just upset.

M Bison - February 24, 2009 11:02 PM (GMT)
QUOTE (Solomon @ Feb 24 2009, 10:36 PM)
As for the eating thing my guess is that it's a phase, that comes with rejection. Sometimes when people are depressed they eat a lot (like me), and some people don't eat at all. It could be that she's just upset.

Basset said that she's actually been diagnosed with the condition, i think it's somewhat mare serious than that I'm afraid.

Make sure she has professional help.

Solomon - February 24, 2009 11:10 PM (GMT)
Oh. Well, the part about you being her friend doesn't change basset, but she does need professional help.

Solomon - February 24, 2009 11:36 PM (GMT)
QUOTE (M Bison @ Feb 24 2009, 11:35 PM)
QUOTE (Guardian of Nesh @ Feb 24 2009, 11:23 PM)

:rolleyes: You've got to be kidding me. -_-  Didn't you ever take a Health class?!

As much as I like to bully ND4, this thread is not the place.

Exactly why those replies were deleted.

Bassetman - February 24, 2009 11:36 PM (GMT)
QUOTE (M.Bison)
Basset said that she's actually been diagnosed with the condition


Yes.

QUOTE (Solomon)
Oh. Well, the part about you being her friend doesn't change basset, but she does need professional help.


Indeed.

Thank you both.

Solomon - February 24, 2009 11:37 PM (GMT)
QUOTE (Bassetman @ Feb 24 2009, 11:36 PM)
QUOTE (M.Bison)
Basset said that she's actually been diagnosed with the condition


Yes.

QUOTE (Solomon)
Oh. Well, the part about you being her friend doesn't change basset, but she does need professional help.


Indeed.

Thank you both.

No problem. Here's hoping that the sun comes up soon.

nicker - February 25, 2009 12:11 AM (GMT)

Hey Bass sorry for wasting thead space and Bison you can bully me later.Oh and sorry about your friend.Hope she pulls though.

Pseudonym - February 25, 2009 12:25 AM (GMT)
If you can, do something to make her feel good about her looks.
-Have her go out for a part in a magazine or a play or something.
Have you told anyone what that guy said; It may be no big thing, but it sounds like malpractice(unproffesionalism or whatever), Verbal Abuse, and downright mean. I don't know but, I'd make a "big deal" about that.

Pseudonym - February 25, 2009 12:26 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (Solomon @ Feb 24 2009, 11:37 PM)
QUOTE (Bassetman @ Feb 24 2009, 11:36 PM)
QUOTE (M.Bison)
Basset said that she's actually been diagnosed with the condition


Yes.

QUOTE (Solomon)
Oh. Well, the part about you being her friend doesn't change basset, but she does need professional help.


Indeed.

Thank you both.

No problem. Here's hoping that the sun comes up soon.

won't it?

SilverSurfer092 - February 25, 2009 12:47 AM (GMT)
Go up to her and provide the following fact: "Think of a model. She can have her pelvis crushed during sex. Think of a regular weight girl. Her pelvis can take the beating AND foster a child. Stay at regular weight."

Marvel Man - February 25, 2009 01:26 AM (GMT)
I thought being Anorexic was a choice, and one you can change.

Well, make sure to stay by her side, and get her help.

Hope things get better...

SilverSurfer092 - February 25, 2009 01:35 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (Marvel Man @ Feb 25 2009, 01:26 AM)
I thought being Anorexic was a choice, and one you can change.

Well, make sure to stay by her side, and get her help.

Hope things get better...

It's not that easy to change and more often than not, it becomes a mental problem in general. Sad thing is, Anorexia can be deadly.

Bassetman - February 25, 2009 01:39 AM (GMT)
[QUOTESilverSurfer092]Sad thing is, Anorexia can be deadly.[/QUOTE]

6% mortality rate.

SilverSurfer092 - February 25, 2009 01:41 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (Bassetman @ Feb 25 2009, 01:39 AM)
[QUOTESilverSurfer092]Sad thing is, Anorexia can be deadly.[/QUOTE]

6% mortality rate.

Your point? 1% mortality rate is too high.

Ethan - February 25, 2009 01:42 AM (GMT)
That blows, Bass, I say help her in any way and support her the best you can, sorry about that.

Bassetman - February 25, 2009 01:42 AM (GMT)
Surfer: Not what was I tryin' to say. Just clarifying.

The highest percentage of any mental illness.

SilverSurfer092 - February 25, 2009 01:44 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (Bassetman @ Feb 25 2009, 01:42 AM)
Surfer: Not what was I tryin' to say. Just clarifying.

The highest percentage of any mental illness.

I see. But yeah, I believe my mom's friend's daughter in Australia has it really really bad. =[ I'm not anorexic, I just have super metabolism, granting me the ability to gain 14 pounds in 3 years.

Solomon - February 25, 2009 02:01 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (Pseudonym @ Feb 25 2009, 12:26 AM)
QUOTE (Solomon @ Feb 24 2009, 11:37 PM)
QUOTE (Bassetman @ Feb 24 2009, 11:36 PM)
QUOTE (M.Bison)
Basset said that she's actually been diagnosed with the condition


Yes.

QUOTE (Solomon)
Oh. Well, the part about you being her friend doesn't change basset, but she does need professional help.


Indeed.

Thank you both.

No problem. Here's hoping that the sun comes up soon.

won't it?

Symbolism.

SilverSurfer092 - February 25, 2009 02:02 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (Solomon @ Feb 25 2009, 02:01 AM)
QUOTE (Pseudonym @ Feb 25 2009, 12:26 AM)
QUOTE (Solomon @ Feb 24 2009, 11:37 PM)
QUOTE (Bassetman @ Feb 24 2009, 11:36 PM)
QUOTE (M.Bison)
Basset said that she's actually been diagnosed with the condition


Yes.

QUOTE (Solomon)
Oh. Well, the part about you being her friend doesn't change basset, but she does need professional help.


Indeed.

Thank you both.

No problem. Here's hoping that the sun comes up soon.

won't it?

Symbolism.

Black Hole Sun, won't you come?

Solomon - February 25, 2009 02:06 AM (GMT)
and wash away the rain
black hole sun
wont you come
won't you come

Pseudonym - February 25, 2009 02:11 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (Solomon @ Feb 25 2009, 02:01 AM)
QUOTE (Pseudonym @ Feb 25 2009, 12:26 AM)
QUOTE (Solomon @ Feb 24 2009, 11:37 PM)
QUOTE (Bassetman @ Feb 24 2009, 11:36 PM)
QUOTE (M.Bison)
Basset said that she's actually been diagnosed with the condition


Yes.

QUOTE (Solomon)
Oh. Well, the part about you being her friend doesn't change basset, but she does need professional help.


Indeed.

Thank you both.

No problem. Here's hoping that the sun comes up soon.

won't it?

Symbolism.

I know.

:o

Solomon - February 25, 2009 02:12 AM (GMT)
Just making sure.

granobulax - February 25, 2009 02:32 AM (GMT)
Ok, anorexia is serious. Left untreated, it can lead to other issues of illness or even death. What happens, is the body no longer gets the nutrition it needs. The result is the burning of fat as a fuel storage source. This happens over time, but eventually the fat stores ware out. What does the body then use as it's fuel source? Protien. The muscles of the body begin to slowly ween away. When the muscle mass gets too low, then the body must find it's energy source elsewhere. It turns to the organs. At this point, it's too late to really do anything. That is a big reason why there is a 6% mortality rate. They literally starve themselves.

Now, when seeking professional help, the patient will then be either hospitalized or go to a special facility which deals with these sort of issues. The patient is then usually on some sort of award system based on how much food they ate. If the patient does not eat, a feeding tube is placed and the patient is force fed. Trust me, one time having a nasogastric tube inserted down your nose, you won't want that to happen again. This continues until the patient is healthy and has an understanding of why anorexia is so dangerous.

Unfortunately, there is a high incidence of reoccurring anorexia. With most people who suffer from the disease, they never will view themselves as anything other than fat. They usually have to live with that fact soley on the knowledge that if they continue to not eat, it can be deadly.

Darkender - February 25, 2009 02:33 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (granobulax @ Feb 25 2009, 02:32 AM)
Ok, anorexia is serious. Left untreated, it can lead to other issues of illness or even death. What happens, is the body no longer gets the nutrition it needs. The result is the burning of fat as a fuel storage source. This happens over time, but eventually the fat stores ware out. What does the body then use as it's fuel source? Protien. The muscles of the body begin to slowly ween away. When the muscle mass gets too low, then the body must find it's energy source elsewhere. It turns to the organs. At this point, it's too late to really do anything. That is a big reason why there is a 6% mortality rate. They literally starve themselves.

Now, when seeking professional help, the patient will then be either hospitalized or go to a special facility which deals with these sort of issues. The patient is then usually on some sort of award system based on how much food they ate. If the patient does not eat, a feeding tube is placed and the patient is force fed. Trust me, one time having a nasogastric tube inserted down your nose, you won't want that to happen again. This continues until the patient is healthy and has an understanding of why anorexia is so dangerous.

Unfortunately, there is a high incidence of reoccurring anorexia. With most people who suffer from the disease, they never will view themselves as anything other than fat. They usually have to live with that fact soley on the knowledge that if they continue to not eat, it can be deadly.

Good thing the doctor's in.

granobulax - February 25, 2009 02:36 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (Darkender @ Feb 25 2009, 02:33 AM)

Good thing the doctor's in.

Not a doctor, nurse in training :D

Darkender - February 25, 2009 02:40 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (granobulax @ Feb 25 2009, 02:36 AM)
QUOTE (Darkender @ Feb 25 2009, 02:33 AM)

Good thing the doctor's in.

Not a doctor, nurse in training :D

Close enough.

Leo Sanders - February 25, 2009 01:06 PM (GMT)
Take a baseball bat to that guy's skull.

Then hire Tyra banks.

:mellow:

I'm Serious.

Bassetman - February 25, 2009 07:05 PM (GMT)
Grano: Her parents are complete idiots. They've been force-feeding her, and when she throws it all up, they make her eat that, which is vomited soon after.

They've been yelling at her for it, not supportive at all.

Can't these people read?

And now she says she has some sort of worm inside her, caused by starvation.

Thoughts, Grano?

granobulax - February 25, 2009 08:06 PM (GMT)
Well, forcing her to eat is what they'd do in professional help. The difference is that someone would watch her for a predetermined amount of time after eating to make sure she doesn't vomit (bolemia) it back up.

If she's that bad off, she needs professional help. That's all there is to it.




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